I can now officially say that I have fallen head over heels in love with my baby boy. He smiles when I smile. He laughs when I laugh. His only sin is that he's in 12 month clothing and he's only 6 months old.
We've exited the desperate first months of the life of a new human being. We Ferberized 2.5 weeks ago and after 3 nights of pure unadulterated hell (except not... he only cried for a maximum of one hour the first night...), he now sleeps through the night from 9 p.m. to 7:30 a.m. He takes two naps (sometimes three) a day. And now Greg and I have been gifted with our evenings. Seriously. I know we used to spend time together. Alone. But for the life of me I can't remember what we did.
And neither can greg.
So greg made a request for your help. What are some romantic things that your significant other does for you or that you do for your significant other?
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Uhhh...is it really sad that I'm coming up blank here? 90% of the time after the kids go to bed my husband and I catch up on Hulu, talk about stuff that happened during the day or about news articles we read or about something the local morning radio DJs we both listen to said. Then we go to bed.
Racking my brain...sometimes he cleans up without me asking, which isn't terribly romantic but is awesome. Brings a little surprise gift every once in a while, offers me a back massage with no further expectations...um...Mostly it's nice to be thought of as an individual rather than wife or mother, no matter what the accompanying gesture is. I know this post was not at all helpful. Sorry.
We keep the romance alive by communicating our "romantic moments". Meaning when I feel like I'm in a romantic mood I tell him, if he feels like he's up to it, we go with the mood. And the same with him. Communication is key to any relationship.
Also, he dose this random flowers thing with me. Just random days he'll come home with flowers for me, not the ones in a plastic bag, but the ones in vases because he knows I hate the ones in bags, plus he is into flower arranging.
Never underestimate the power of candles. Even those little cheep tea-lights that you can get at the grocery store. Light up the room once the baby is down as a surprise for one of you, guys like it too.
Little things count! Hope that helps, dose it?
We love to cuddle up on the couch with a coffee/tea/glass of wine and just chat about our day, or our hobbies or current events-whatever we feel like talking about. We do make an effort to talk about things other than the children (though we still discuss them quite a bit).
We also read aloud together to one another or play games. It may sound boring, but we really like playing scrabble together.
We also enjoying making/buying small little gifts for one another. For example, I'll pick up a 4-pack of Jones soda for my DH because he loves them and they are hard to find. He'll bring me home some favored candy or flower he knows I'll love.
The reality is that once you have a baby, life just changes. You will love each other in different ways. Most of the other comments are pretty spot on. Sometimes the most romantic thing you can do is sit on the couch and snuggle up to each other and have conversations.
One of the best times I've had with my husband was when we got a babysitter, but skipped the movie and just went window shopping. It was a blast to hold hands and make adult jokes without worry.
My suggestion is to read back through your blog. I seem to remember you saying something about Greg reading to you. How fun would it be to reminise about those days. It may prompt discussion about how your "new" love for eachother can grow.
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